The Naturist Talks: Tom from Singapore

The Naturist Talks: Tom from Singapore

One of the main reasons why we started this project is to show the world that naturists are not some strange dark commune but that actually everyone could be one… Or could enjoy being one if they took the first step.

 

Our main example of “everyone” is of course ourselves, we write posts about naturism in general but also about our own experiences. But some of you might be thinking “Yes sure, those two are probably just the strange kids in the block…” (nah, we know you’re not thinking that about us, but we’re trying to write an introduction here). So we decided to let other naturists have a word as well.

 

So please sit back and get inspired!

 

Meanwhile we already published interviews with people from all over the world. You can find them in the The Naturist Talks section.
Our guest for today is Tom from Singapore.

 

Hello Tom, tell us something about yourself
I’m from Singapore, a little country in South East Asia. I work in customer service, with hobbies including sports like swimming and running, poetry and hiking when I have time. I also like to study general knowledge as part of my growing curiosity.

How and at what age did you become a naturist?
I’ve always liked being naked since I was a kid. I was never shy parading in my young age, but it wasn’t till I was 12 that I thought to myself that I could live in the house naked, watching TV, doing some chores and just feeling free without clothes on. I started using the internet a little while later and found out about such a lifestyle in existence, and the label for me stuck. I decided that I’m a nudist.

 

Is naturism allowed in your country and what’s the public opinion?
It is not the greatest country in regards to nudism. In fact, it’s plainly illegal and worst still, most people don’t care for it. Every year there are bizarre cases of people being nude in public places and causing havoc by shocking the population. Most people either don’t care for it, or see it as a perverted activity. I handle it by telling them it’s not about sex or shock, but it’s about peace and freedom. I don’t flash, I don’t force myself and I don’t push someone to get in the lifestyle. I simply tell them and have them understand it as a simple way to live.

What do you think is the best and worst thing about naturism?
The best thing about it, it helps with accepting yourself for who you are. It gives self esteem and love for the body you are gifted with from God. People judge each other for appearance, and being naked showcases every bit of you that is simply you. Accept it and love it for who you are. The worst thing in my opinion is how so many take advantage of it for their sexual desires. I’m quite sad and sick of voyeurs and swingers who feel nudism is just a gateway to sex and desires. Sex is natural, but it should be done with respect and love, not carnal excess. Nudism in a social setting should be handled with respect.

 

Do you find it easy to make naturist friends?
It’s been hard over the years. Aside from the age difference of me and many nudists, many don’t like interacting with single nudists. So I’ve always been pushed aside, ignored or seen as weird by some in a few nudism based social sites. As for my friends, they respect the lifestyle but they don’t want to pursue it, consistently saying ‘it’s not something I’m comfortable with.’ It’s been tough, so I’m usually on my own.

What’s the best tip you have for beginning naturists?
Best tip is to take it slow and relax. When you’re naked, look at yourself and reflect on what you have and say ‘I love you for who you are.’ Make it a mantra, and you may find acceptance of self and others easier.

 

Anything else you’d like to share with our audience?
I want to say that in Asia, no one is truly alone in the world of nudism. It’s growing in numbers, but hopefully many more will grow in acceptance of this. Show to them that it can be about love, and not always sexualised and sensational. It’s just you, normal as it is. Thank you.

 

Thank you so much for your participation Tom!

 

Do you also want to tell your story and experiences in naturism? Please get in touch via the CONTACT page! As long as we have people who like to contribute, we can keep The Naturist Talks running!

 

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3 thoughts on “The Naturist Talks: Tom from Singapore

  1. I haven’t been able to enjoy the Naturalist Lifestyle as much I desire because people can’t accept that there are people who can enjoy themselves nakid without having sex. I have visited nude beaches and clothing optional clubs without a companion a few times but it is difficult to make friends with other Naturalists if they don’t know you socially before removing your clothes.
    That said I try to enjoy myself in the privacy of my home or in the great outdoors as much as possible. I don’t frequent nudist resorts or clubs because I currently don’t have a significant woman in my life that feels comfortable nakid in the presence of other people.

  2. It is a real pity that single men are often singled out as potential perverts simply because they prefer to be nude even when they are trying not to offend anyone. This is a byproduct of society associating nudity with sex. Women may not be seen as perverts, but are often referred to as sluts because they like to be nude. It is all part of the same issue, sluts have to do with sexual promiscuity and not simple nudity. However, these labels get placed on us, because as Naked Wanderings have often pointed out a few misfits on social media and clothing optional or nude beaches will not respect generally accepted naturist/nudist etiquette and insist in harassing female naturist with unwanted advances or photos of their genitals or request for photos, or engaging in public sexual behavior. As a naturist community world wide we need to do a better job of giving individuals the benefit of the doubt, educating newcomers all the time while policing ourselves, identifying and removing from beaches and social media groups the bad apples. Thank you to Naked Wanderings for assisting in this process.

    1. Interesting point, i read that ppl usually call that a stigma, tho i hate that word.
      But cant we place then that word to anything else? or everything else? Even if something we or 99% of ppl dont like or aprove of?
      Can i ask, how would u call a women ,that isnt a nudist, but posts nude photos in Instagram ,that are in half, kind of sexual?
      They way i see this or anythng else, even menthal illnes or sexual abuse(u pick ur self what can be considered as such) , is placed on ppl as such a shame artaficially , that they cant handle it.
      Today we can see, that even verbaly u can sexually assult someone lol .. sorry but thats major bull to me .. ,anyway, ppl will get all fuzzed about it cause its gonna lable them as some1 who has been sexually abuses and that person might not be able to cope with that.
      So if u ask me, its all ppl, no1 is a bigger enemy to humans, but humans, with crazy ,sencless, dumb, illogical, unnatrual rules ,laws, and morals.

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